Facing your Problems

The expression and underlying emotions displayed during a conflict may reveal the strength or weakness of the marriage.

Below is a facial expressions, which can reveal true feelings even when words don't.

Surprise
a big smile, with popping eyes, indicates
a positive surprice, Something unexpected
but unpleasant yields the eye-pop only
Either way, a short-lived stated.


Interest
A calm voice and positive body language
learning forward, for example-signal
the genuine article, it's real desire to hear
a partner's opinion. not an attempt to influence.

Anger
The tone is cold or loud, the wording staccato.
But honest anger, an internal state, is different
from contempt, directed at the spouse.
A fake smile, without raised cheeks, may ask anger.


Domineering
A "low and slow" voice often signals that
one partner is trying to force the other to his
or her view. Ranges from lawyerly cross-
examination to blatant threats.

Fear
Outright fear is rare; a lower-grade version-tension-
is a more common. And a wife's tension, if pronounced,
can a predictor for divorce down the road.


Sadness
Passivity and sulking can look like stonewalling
or disengaging a fight, but sad people maintain more
eye contact than stonewallers.


Contempt
If prolonged, this expression is a red alert.
Especially when accompanied by sarcasm
and insults, it suggest a marriage in serious trouble

Cincin Berlian

Terkadang para suami seringkali membohongi kegiatan-kegiatannya diluar rumah, sehingga terlihat semua palsu, dan tanpa kita sadari terbawa-bawa kedalam kehidupan sehari-hari. Seperti cerita singkat dibawah ini:

“Seorang laki-laki yang katanya sibuk diluar rumah dengan urusan bisnis, meeting dll. Hingga pada saat istrinya merayakan ulang tahun, dia ingin membuat suatu kejutan dengan membelikan sebuah cincin berlian untuk hadiah istrinya sebagai pembenaran dari kegiatannya diluar dan untuk mengambil hati istrinya.”

Pada saat mencari-cari cincin tersebut dia mengajak sahabatnya, dan menceritakan niat untuk membeli cincin.

“Loh…, bukannya istri kamu mengidam-idamkan mobil Cheroke..? tanya sahabatnya.”

Betul sih, tapi….dimana gue mesti nyari Cheroke palsu….?” Jawab si lelaki…

“Aduh ternyata kasih sayangnya palsu dan cincin berliannya pun palsu……” heheheheheh

Berarti selama ini si lelaki bilang sibuk bisnis, meeting dll diluar rumah juga palsuuuu..?